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Don’t Mop the Floor Before Fixing the Leaking Pipe

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A Tale of Brokenness Imagine walking into a house where the floor is flooded. Your first instinct is to grab a mop. You work tirelessly, wiping away the water, bucket after bucket. For a moment, the floor looks dry. Then, within minutes, the water is back. Why? Because no one stopped to fix the leaking pipe. This is how many relationships unfold. We often meet people in the middle of their emotional flood. They are wounded, abandoned, betrayed, rejected, or carrying trauma they have never confronted. We see the mess, not the source. Our hearts convince us that if we love them enough, sacrifice enough, or remain patient enough, everything will change. But love cannot permanently dry a floor while the pipe is still leaking. Broken People Often Break People Brokenness is not a character flaw. It is a wound. But untreated wounds have consequences. Someone who has never healed from betrayal may struggle to trust even the most loyal person. Someone who has never dealt with rejecti...
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The Chase for the Empty Seat

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  The Chase for the Empty Seat There is a quiet obsession that has crept into the modern Church, the chase for the empty seat. Across denominations, cities, and continents, much of today’s church growth conversation revolves around numbers: attendance, capacity, expansion, filled auditoriums, and visible success. Pastors worry when buildings are not full. Leadership teams strategise endlessly about how to attract more people. Sermons, programmes, conferences, and experiences are designed often sincerely to ensure that no seat remains empty. On the surface, this seems noble. After all, the Church is called to reach people. “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations…” (Matthew 28:19) . But somewhere along the way, the pursuit of the empty seat has begun to eclipse the care of the already-filled one. The Seat That Is Already Occupied While leaders anxiously scan the room for empty chairs, there is often a painful silence sitting right in front of them. That silence belongs ...
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For Richer, For Poorer: The Vow We’re Afraid to Make

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Introduction There was a time when “ for richer, for poorer ” was not a poetic line it was a warning. A declaration that love would be tested by seasons of lack as much as seasons of abundance. Today, that line remains in our wedding liturgy, but its meaning has quietly been emptied. Not because it is outdated but because it confronts a version of love we no longer want. When Provision Becomes Proof In modern relationships , love is increasingly measured by financial capacity. A man’s affection is assessed by what he can provide, while stability and lifestyle are mistaken for commitment. If provision slows or struggles, love itself is questioned. Even within Christian spaces , this thinking has taken root. Provision is not just expected it is presented as evidence of love. Yet Scripture never defines love by affordability. It defines it by sacrifice. “Love is patient, love is kind… it does not insist on its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:4–5). Money can support love, but it was neve...
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